これで替えることができました。
internal class CustomListViewRender : ListViewRenderer
{
protected override void OnElementChanged(ElementChangedEventArgs<ListView> e)
{
base.OnElementChanged(e);
var subview = Control?.Subviews;
if (subview != null && subview.Any(x => x is UIRefreshControl))
{
var refresh = (UIRefreshControl)subview.First(x => x is UIRefreshControl);
refresh.TintColor = UIColor.Black;
}
}
}